Sex
and Sexual Art
Q:
I write this partly as a response to your recent sexual art works but
also it’s been something that’s been on my mind for ages and
actually something I have been meaning to write to you about.
When
you posted about your sexual art I read it at work and only the night
before I had been very consumed by sexual desire. Hence sex was
strongly on my mind when I read your email. Basically my sexual
desire has nowhere to go. I know understand how frustrated and
blocked this aspect of myself is.
Any
advice in this area would be appreciated as I have experienced first
hand the pain of cutting off the sex drive. I want to be a normal
human being and not some spiritual seeker who cuts off the sex drive
in an attempt to be holy.
Kim:
Do what you can to help yourself. Suppression and ignoring sexuality
makes people strange, if not batshit crazy. Once Babaji told me, ”Be
yourself. Find your own way”. You got to find your own way. It is
important not to pretend saintliness. Besides, saints are often
psychopaths. Tantrics don’t play with fire, we use it as wisely as
we can.
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| Close up from one of Kim's works. |
Q:
That was a lovely reply thank you I really needed to hear that. Yes
there is no post office form for how it should work out. I hadn’t
really clocked how important sexual relationships are because it’s
just not really spoken about in the Buddhist circles. My previous
teacher didn’t go there that’s for sure. People don’t talk
about it openly and I didn’t get any advice from my parents at all
which I think is neglectful parenting, but that’s just my opinion.
Kim:
Few traditions speak openly about sex and sexuality. I have the
impression that Taoists from China, at least some lineages, have been
most openminded about it. In buddhism and hinduism that I am most
familiar with, it's like people had an empty hole in the place of
their sexual organs. They don't exist and they never go there. Even
the chakra, subtle energy center close to the genitals is called
”secret center”.
Looking
at the record of sexual harrassment and abuse in buddhism tells me
that whatever the tradition says or doesn't say about sexuality,
needs to change because it is such a big part of being a human. If
you ignore it or don't understand it, how could you ever truly know
yourself?
People
should not feel more uncomfortable about their genitals and sex than
they are about their hands and feet. Shame and guilt that religions
have connected with sexuality is completely unnatural, crazy really,
and we see constantly how it affects people's lives in negative
manner. If I can do something about it through my art and simply by
talking about it openly, I feel I should.
I
have received only few positive feedbacks about my art works but much
more clicks than any of my other posts. Thanks.
See
Kim's art work here:
https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=683282842173444&id=621644005003995
